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Communication Without Escalation
How to talk about difficult subjects without immediately triggering the old argument.
Founding Member Enrollment Is Now Open
Love Is Not Enough™ Relationship Community begins October 6, 2026.
Join now as a Founding Member and get access to the Relationship Community, weekly live relationship training beginning October 6, and the growing on demand learning library as new lessons are released.
Private Relationship Community
You Can be Deeply in Love...And also Completely Unprepared to Build a Healthy Relationship.
A private weekly relationship community for couples who want better communication, real conflict resolution, stronger trust, and a relationship that keeps growing.
- Weekly live practitioner led training beginning October 6, 2026
- A growing on demand learning library, with new lessons released over time
- Learn with other couples instead of trying to figure everything out alone
Love Is Not Enough™
The Self Help LA Relationship Community
Founding Member Enrollment Open · First Live Class October 6, 2026
7 Day Free Trial
$67/month
per couple
One membership covers both partners.
Month to month · Cancel anytime
Community access begins immediately after you join.
Does This Sound Familiar?
You Love Each Other. So Why Does It Still Feel This Hard?
You keep having the same fight over and over.
Attempts to communicate quickly turn into arguments.
One person pursues while the other shuts down.
Trust has been shaken and it has not fully come back.
Emotional distance keeps growing quietly.
The relationship feels stagnant even though there is still love.
Most couples are not short on love. They are short on skills nobody ever taught them.
What This Is
You Can Love Each Other... And Still Destroy Everything.
Love Is Not Enough™ is our Self Help LA Relationship Community.
It is an ongoing learning environment for couples who want practical relationship skills, not another round of the same argument.
Members get live practitioner instruction, structured tools, self paced video learning, and collective learning from other couples working on the same things.
Some couples join because they are not ready for private couples counseling. Others have finished private relationship work and want continued support and accountability. Both are welcome here. The teaching is built on The M.I.N.D. Method™, and many members start with the free RRIM™ relationship assessment to see their pattern before their first live session.
It is consistent practice for the relationship you are actually in.
The Relationship Tribe
We’re Recreating the Relationship Tribe
One of the most powerful ways human beings learn has almost been forgotten. For thousands of years we have learned from the tribe.
We grew up surrounded by parents, grandparents, brothers, sisters, aunts, uncles and other families living around us. Together, those people formed the village.
It takes a village.
We learned through exposure and immersion. We watched how other people handled conflict, raised their children, solved problems, recovered from mistakes, and shared what their own experience had already cost them.
Today, many people no longer have that tribe. Families are scattered, generations are separated, and couples struggle privately behind closed doors.
So we are intentionally recreating the relationship tribe, where you learn from a trained Self Help LA practitioner AND from each other.
- Hear how another couple handles conflict.
- Learn from someone who has already overcome a problem you are facing now.
- Learn what has worked in real time.
- Learn what didn’t, and adapt immediately.
- Hear perspectives you may never have considered inside your own relationship.
Learn quickly. See clearly. Change faster.
Not just information. A tribe learning how to build better relationships together.
You are no longer learning from one point of view. You may be learning from five, ten or twenty people bringing different experiences, mistakes and victories into the same room.
That collective experience condenses time. Instead of discovering every lesson the hard way, you learn from what others have already lived through.
How It Works
Once a Week. LIVE online. Led by an experienced
Self Help LA Practitioner.
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Show Up Live
Meet once a week, live online.
Led by a Self Help LA practitioner with extensive experience working with couples every week for years.
- 2
Learn + Ask
Learn the relationship concept or tool, bring a real situation, ask questions, and hear questions you may have never thought to ask.
- 3
Practice Between Sessions
Use the tools during the week, continue learning inside the community, and return to supporting lessons and resources in Skool.
Why Self Help LA
Taught by Practitioners Who Do This Work Every Day.
2009
Since 2009, helping people create emotional and behavioral changes in their relationships.
17
Years of experience working with real couples on communication, trust and conflict.
The community is taught by practitioners from the Self Help LA team, the same practitioners working directly with couples in our offices every week.
The same structured principles, tools, protocols and frameworks used privately with couples. This is not generic relationship content pulled from the internet.
Jason Godoy
NLP. MTD. SC.
Jason leads the weekly community training.
The M.I.N.D. Method™ by Armando Perez is the methodology underneath what is taught.
Real Couples. Real Experiences.
What Couples Say After Doing the Work With Self Help LA
5 Google Rating
Based on 117 Google reviews
“Working with her has completely changed our relationship for the better. Her guidance, compassion, and the tools she shares have helped us grow individually and together.”
Stephanie Jimenez
Google Review
“My wife and I can't express how thankful we are for everything she's done. I've learned so much, and most importantly, I've been able to strengthen my relationship with my wife and our kids.”
Arturo
Google Review
“I feel like I learned so much on our first session already about the cycles that we both fall into over and over and why things aren't working and fall back into the same routine.”
Chrysti Lavv
Google Review
What We Teach
The Skills That Change What Happens Between You.
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Listening So Your Partner Feels Heard
The difference between hearing words and actually understanding meaning.
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Conflict Resolution
How couples resolve disagreement instead of repeatedly reopening it.
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Triggers & Protective Patterns
Why each person reacts the way they do under pressure.
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Me vs. You → Us vs. the Problem
How couples move from opposition into alignment.
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Trust & Emotional Safety
What damages trust, what strengthens it and what behaviors create evidence over time.
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The M.I.N.D. Method™
The framework underneath how Self Help LA approaches recognition and behavioral change.
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Relationship Growth
Shared goals, future vision and deliberately building the relationship instead of merely reacting to problems.
Learn At Your Own Pace
A Growing Video Library of Foundational Relationship Training
Learn at your own pace, revisit important concepts, and strengthen the foundational relationship skills we teach every day.
Watch. Learn. Practice. Revisit.
Some lessons become far more useful after you experience a real conversation and recognize your own pattern inside it.
The library stays available to you between the live sessions, so you can return to the material exactly when you need it.
Illustrative lesson library
Communication
Conflict Resolution
Trust
Triggers
Live practitioner training gives you interaction. The video library gives you repetition. The community gives you multiple perspectives. Together they create a complete learning environment.
LIVE PRACTITIONER ACCESS
Weekly access to a trained Self Help LA practitioner teaching the same structured relationship principles and protocols our team has used with clients since 2009. Bring real questions, get direct feedback, and learn how to apply the work to the relationship you are actually in.
ON DEMAND RELATIONSHIP TRAINING
Learn the same core principles, tools and structured relationship concepts we teach privately in our offices, available to watch, revisit and practice at your own pace between live sessions.
COMMUNITY LEARNING
Learn alongside other people doing the work. Hear perspectives you would never encounter on your own, learn from what others have already lived through, and grow inside a community focused specifically on stronger relationships.
The same way a monthly gym membership helps keep your body in shape…
Our Relationship Community is like a gym membership for your relationship.
Hosted Online
Hosted on Skool
Our Relationship Community is hosted on Skool, a private online platform where members access live sessions, relationship lessons, practical tools, discussions, resources and community support in one place.
Because the community meets online, it serves couples across California and beyond. Weekly training is led by Self Help LA practitioners connected to our Downey and Santa Ana offices, serving Whittier, Pico Rivera, and surrounding communities.
What Members Get
Everything Included for One Membership.
Live weekly practitioner led Zoom training
Direct Q&A with a Self Help LA practitioner
Practical communication and conflict resolution tools
Listening skills that help both partners feel heard
M.I.N.D. Method™ teachings and exercises
Private community discussions
A growing relationship video library
Relationship resources and lessons
Community learning from other couples
One membership covers both partners
Every Month, You Get
Live
Weekly practitioner access, direct Q&A, and real time relationship training.
On Demand
A growing video library of the same core principles and tools taught privately at Self Help LA.
Community
A private focused on relationships environment where you learn from other people doing the work alongside you.
7 Days Free
$67/month
per couple
One membership covers both partners.
Month to month · Cancel anytime
Access begins immediately.
Your Access Starts Immediately
As soon as you join as a Founding Member, you can enter the private community, start with the lessons already published in the growing on demand learning library, explore the member resources, and see the calendar for the first live class.
Weekly live training begins October 6, 2026, is held on weeknights, and is recorded, so you can continue learning even when you cannot attend live.
A Strong Fit
The Relationship Community is right for you if
- You want ongoing learning, not only crisis intervention.
- You want better communication in everyday conversations.
- You want real conflict resolution skills you can practice.
- You want the relationship to keep growing, not just survive.
- You want a lower cost, consistent way to keep working on it together.
When Private Help Comes First
Some situations need direct, private attention
If your relationship is in serious crisis, dealing with recent betrayal, having separation or divorce conversations, or living in highly escalated conflict, private attention is usually the better starting point. Many couples begin privately and then join the community to keep the progress going.
Book a 60 minute private sessionFAQ
Questions couples ask before joining
Don't see your question? Reach out, we typically respond within one business day.
Yes. New members receive a 7 day free trial. After the trial, membership is $67/month per couple. One membership covers both partners.
Join Together
Healthy relationships are built through practice, not through crisis.
Live practitioner interaction. Self paced video learning. Community perspective. Practical relationship tools you can use the same week you learn them.
7 Day Free Trial
$67/month
per couple
One membership covers both partners.
Month to month · Cancel anytime
Access begins immediately
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